What to do if your child is bullied or bullies others at
school.
Dr. Keith’s 3 pronged approach:
1)The School – 5 tips to eliminate bullying from your school.
2)The Parents – 5 tips to parents – we can help.
3)The Child – 5 tips for children.
The School – Dr Keith’s five tips to eliminating bullying from your school
Tip No1: Stop
Stop accepting that bullying is normal schoolyard behavior – it is not!
Tip No2: Confront
Confront bullying with firmness but not anger. Both sides of the bullying equation are victims - always separate a person from their behavior. “I respect you but your behavior is unacceptable”.
Any negative behavior, reactions or beliefs belong to our negative personalities (NP’s) not our true selves, and can be cleared, eliminated or reduced. Go to my website – keithmaitland.com to download The Fourth Key – Clearing (the most important key) for free and follow the process.
The negative reactions to look for are:
I hate / dislike bullying
I don’t want to be involved
I don’t like conflict
I think some people are weak
I believe some people deserve it
What is your negative reaction to bullying?
Tip No3: Demonstration
“For children to change their behavior first adults need to change theirs!”
As adults it is our responsibility to demonstrate calm, respectful, tolerant and supportive behavior to each other, look at the subtle or not so subtle bullying that goes on between adults.
How do we react when we don’t get our way
Do we use our position or physical size to intimidate
Do we see one person as superior to another
How do we react to conflict
Do we dump our frustration / anger on those around us?
We have to be honest with ourselves huge personal growth and improved relationships are possible if we clear our subtle or otherwise negative personalities (NPS) - go to my free fourth key.
Our thoughts affect those around us.
Tip No4: Vibe
Improve the vibe of your school: Clean, Wash, Paint, Plant trees etc.
The beaming vibe of your school affects the attitude and behavior of everyone in it, schools do matter, children matter – show the world that you love your school.
Tip No5: Food
Tuckshop: The health and vitality of the food we give our children affects their attitude and behavior, the healthier everyone at your school is, the better their attitude and behavior will be.
The Parents- Dr. Keith’s 5 tips to Parents we can help.
Tip No1: We are involved
We are involved: Accept responsibility we can do something that will help our child if he/she is bullied or bullies at school.
Tip No2: Reflect
Children reflect: children tend to reflect the behavior of the parents – even our subtle behavior is reflected back at us in our children, we can change our negative behavior (NP’s).
“Blaming someone else makes us feel better but rarely changes anything”.
Parents of a bullied child:
We can look at our own negative beliefs that allow the above
I don’t like conflict
I don’t want to be involved
I’m not worthy
I’m weak
I’m not good enough
I can’t stand up for myself
I need protection
I don’t like anger
I can’t do anything about it
I deserve punishment
All the above thoughts belong to our negative personalities, not our true selves and with clearing, their effect on our life , relationships and health can be eliminated. - Go to my free Fourth Key download.
“We more often sympathise with the bullied, help them eliminate the negative beliefs that allow abuse and change their life forever”.
The abused will often endure it for long periods of time before exploding, but putting down our boundaries with firmness and not anger is always best.
Tip No3: Bullies
If your child bullies at school: The bullier is a victim too, so clear any negative reaction to them, be firm but separate them, from their behavior.
As adults we need to look at our own bullying behavior (our own negative behavior is hard to confront and often denied). Beating ourselves up doesn’t help either, it is time to change.
Where do we take our anger out on those around us
Use our size to intimidate
Make ourselves superior
What do we do to get our own way
How do we bully our partner etc
Any negative behavior, once acknowledged can be cleared – go to Fourth Key free download. Our health can also affect our anger, frustration and moodiness so improving health helps.
Tip No4: Demonstration
How do we treat those around us, particularly when there are problems. Being calm, supportive, respectful, tolerant, and happy is normal. Any negative reaction we have to any situation can be cleared go to the Fourth Key it’s free at my website.
“How we react to our children’s behavior has a huge impact on how they will react to others, they watch our demonstration”.
Tip No5: Health
Health: Look at our health habits – we can work on improving and maintaining our health every day. Your children are watching!
The Child-Dr. Keith’s 5 tips for children:
Tip No1: Not acceptable
Notacceptable: Being bullied or bullying is not a normal or acceptable behavior in children or adults.
“There are no winners in the bully or bullied scenario”
Tip No2: Responsible
You are responsible, ultimately we are all responsible for our own behavior, start treating others as you wish to be treated.
Tip No3: The bullied
If you’re being bullied:
Talk to your parents about it. Change those negative beliefs you have about yourself, they are not the real you that allow abuse.
I’m not strong enough
I don’t want to be involved
I don’t like conflict
I can’t stand up for myself
Go to my clearing process –The Fourth Key at my website or just replace them with positive thoughts;
I am strong
I do stand up for myself
I am involved
I am good enough etc
Everyone has a right to exist, take up space and be treated respectfully.
Defend yourself with equal or a little less force than is being used on you, with firmness but not anger.
By enduring abuse we are saying it is ok – it is not.
We can increase physical activity to increase our strength and confidence.
Tip No4:Bullies
The Bullier: This behavior is not acceptable and can be changed, treat others as we wish to be treated, we can learn strategies that release our anger, frustration and desire to bully, without dumping it on others;
Write down your negative feelings
Hit pillows to release anger and frustration
Yell or scream in a way that no one can hear you
Talk to your parents about the problem
You are not a bully, you have bullying behavior
Being supportive, happy, calm, respective and having fun are normal.
Tip No5: Health
Health: Ask your parents to improve the quality of the food you eat. Less sugar, food additives, processed food, sweets, etc. will improve the health of your body and brain,which make you less cranky, irritable and frustrated.
Bullying let it become a thing of the past
Dr. Keith’s 10 Parenting Tips
Tip No.1
Your Demonstration
How you handle your own difficulties
How you talk to people in your world
Your own health habits
What substances you use to relax and enjoy yourself
TO CHANGE YOUR CHILDREN – CHANGE YOURSELF
I’m sorry if you thought I had some quick fix – some miraculous cure for problem children, but this is the key. (Some great ideas are coming up)
a)Your own negative habits, reactions, thoughts, and beliefs are NOT the real you – they are your negative personalities (NP’s), so when one is triggered for whatever reason
Keep your mouth shut
Walk away from the situation that is stimulating your negative emotion or reaction. In this way you start to control your NP. It is the beginning of clearing this habit right out of your life. This is particularly important when handling difficulties with children – Be firm but not angry.
If you go to my website www.keithmaitland.com you can download the section on clearing for free to get you started.
b) Whenever you talk to the people in your world – do it patiently, respectfully and take time with them. This demonstrates to your children that people do matter. Each time you fall short of this, just remember it’s another NP that needs clearing.
c) Correct your own health habits – Your children are watching you and are taking their cue from you. Are you treating your body like a garbage dump (drinking, smoking or eating junk food). You’re saying to your children – my body doesn’t matter, which is interpreted as “I don’t matter”. This affects anyone who loves and cares for you – You Do Matter! Start working on getting your body healthier today- not only will you feel healthier, it will improve you attitude and allow you to handle difficult situations more calmly.
d) Look at what substances you use to relax. Recreational drug use has its roots in a common human habit, taking something (alcohol, smoking, drugs, food, coffee, chocolate etc) to make yourself feel better or more relaxed. Work out what it is that is making you feel bad or stressed then work on changing that, so you don’t need anything to make yourself feel good or relaxed because you already do.
Your own improved demonstration will be having an impact already – keep going!
Tip No.2
What we suppress our children tend to express:
Now don’t beat yourself up – I know you’re doing your best, but we can all do better.
Observe your child or teenager’s negative behaviour and ask yourself, “where do I exhibit the same behaviour”. Sometimes this is easy to see, otherwise look for those 0.1% subtle behaviors, anger, frustration, impatience, intolerances, desire to make people pay, rejecting others, wanting to hurt others as you hurt, etc or is it give up, overwhelm or apathy. Be honest with yourself. What you’re looking for here is known as the “The Law of Reflection”. Your negative patterns are reflected back at you by the people in your world for you to see –you can see them in others but not in yourself.
What I’m asking you to can be quite confronting, but the benefits of clearing our childs negative behaviour in ourselves is HUGE. It unlocks some of the most difficult relationship issues.
Stop expecting the person behaving the worst to change first! Change yourself and you make it easier for them to change.
How do you change a negative behaviour? – Go to my website and download “The Fourth Key- Clearing” for free.
Tip No.3
Your own relationship:
The closeness, happiness, and respectfulness and quality of relationship with your spouse, sets the tone for all relationships within the house. Start improving yours today. The “4C’s to Relationship” (also found in the clearing) will help.
Closeness and happiness are normal in a relationship – if this is not happening in your relationship, clear what’s blocking it.
Tip No.4
Health:
Anyone who over-reacts to situations and is continually stuck in a negative emotion, should have the health of their brain checked by a suitably qualified practitioner. If you have a brain health issue in your family, have yourself checked.
Parasites, candida, moulds, cranials, spinal or chemical misalignments, heavy metal and pesticide toxicity all affect our thoughts and behaviour, as do allergies or general toxicity. Improve the quality of the food that goes into your body – fresh is always best, and decrease sugar, food additives, colourings and flavour enhancers, etc.
Good health is normal!
Tip No.5
Spend time:
Spend time one on one or with your children, not just watching TV together – Do something positive with them, letting them know they are important!
Your behaviour and reactions to their behavior is improving, so one on one time will improve as well.
Tip No.6
Never tell a child they are BAD!!
Always separate a child from their behaviour. I love you, I just don’t like your behaviour
Never tell a child they are: - No good
- Dumb
- Unattractive
- Not good enough
- Fat
- Useless
Always be positive in your encouragement – If you don’t feel this, keep your mouth shut and go to clearing.
Tip No.7
Your reaction:
We are responsible for out reactions to any behaviour our child exhibits, so clearing, releasing and changing any negative reaction, behaviour or thoughts maybe required (go to that free email on clearing). Once our normal happy, positive attitude returns we’re ready to handle/decide what to do about the situation with our child or children.
Be firm but not angry, and then decide what to do!
Tip No. 8
Get your child involved:
Get your child into some activity that channels their energy into something positive, which will teach them life long skills- sport, music, art etc. It also teaches them how important a healthy body is, and they will be influenced by adults with positive creative healthy attitudes.
Tip No. 9
Home Health:
Improve the health of your home, clean, aerate, paint, de-clutter, wash, get rid of any moulds. This will all improve the vibe of your home, which has a positive effect on everyone.
Tip No.10
Parenting is a process of letting go:
Most children naturally want more freedom than we are willing to give – clear any fears this may stimulate. Now your good intention will shine through as you put down boundaries.
Always be willing to review your decision and explain –“ that it is just my opinion, and that doesn’t make it right, but it is my responsibility to make it”
“Being a parent is a sacred duty the future of the world depends on your efforts, start doing a better job today “ Dr Keith
WHY DOES CORRUPTION HAPPEN?
By Dr Keith Maitland
Chiropractor, Applied Kinesiologist and Life Coach
keithmaitland.com
Anyone coming into contact with people who are criminal, drug affected, agitate or aggressive(people often become agitated when pulled over or interviewed by police) must be aware that this may affect their own thoughts, behaviour or actions.
Around everyone is an attitude cloud, energy field or auric field this is why some people make you feel good and others make you feel frustration, anger etc, this attitude cloud contains the thoughts of that individual,it also reflects the persons health,particularly the health of their brain.
When you walk into a prisoners, criminals or anyone’s attitude cloud you may:
React to the persons thoughts, words or actions with your own negative reaction, this needs “clearing” → go the keithmaitland.com so you no longer react negatively ,unfortunately most people will see your negative reaction to them and be affected by this(making any situation worse) rather than see what they have done to trigger your reaction.The job of a law enforcement officer is to learn not to react to negative behaviour but be calm,happy yet firm and diffuse a situation.
You may begin thinking that your thoughts which are coming from the other person are your own – BIG MISTAKE.
You maybe totally unaffected, your own calm attitude is not easily ruffled.
An understanding that criminal or bad behaviour is not normal, most people behaving this way are either sick (have varying degrees of mental illness) brain health has a huge impact on your attitude or have picked up their bad habits from parents,siblings and have often been the subject of abuse(sexual,physical or emotional).
Learn to be tolerant, calm, happy yet firm..
Corruption happens because susceptible people come into contact with corrupt people which then stimulates a latent behaviour in themselves,they start thinking corruption is normal,they take on the thoughts and behaviors of the people in their charge, so what can you do to decrease the chance of corruption.
This begins at the training level,create a culture in which speaking the truth is highly prized, reward people who tell the truth no matter what the consequence.
Give people training so they can learn not to go the affect of other peoples negativity.
If you react negatively to thoughts like
I hate you
I hate police
Anger
Violence etc.
Help people to clear these reactions,vetting people as they join the police for their own level of negativity and negative reactions,people who are naturally calming in nature are much better suited to be police.
Teach people to think for themselves, be individuals, take responsibility for their own actions a team yes, but also individual (don’t just follow the leader).
Look out for each other, if someone’s behaviour is becoming negative remove them from the situation. Give them support/training so eventually that situation becomes easier to handle, if your own thoughts become negative temporarily withdraw from the situation, until your normal calm happy self retu
Promote people based on ability, not because they agree with you.
Don’t cover up the truth, pick I apart, use it as a learning for all.
Learn to handle the projected negative thoughts of other – how not to be affected by them go to keithmaitland.com
If thoughts like
I love authority
I’m god
I’m right
I won’t take that
I’m angry
I’ll teach you a lesson
Plague your mind →go to keithmaitland.com ,they will get a negative reaction in anyone you deal with.
You are a public servant, your there to help, make it safe, learn to be calm not agitated or frustrated, happy and tolerant, not angry, helpful not abusive and the general public will react completely differently to you, become a calming source.
The health and fitness of your body has a huge impact on your attitude and ability to handle different situations, create an environment where this is normal.
Improve the environmental health of you workplace
Plants
Fresh air
Clean
Positive poster
Negative generators
Positive fragrances etc.
Corruption, nip it in the bud and it will never manifest.
Corruption is not normal, integrity, trust, and telling the truth are.
The better you behave as police, the better our society will behave, they watch your demonstration.
There are three areas of Life Coaching offered by myself at Nooyans Wholistic Health Centre.
Health Coach
This is all about supporting you to get a body that is 100% healthy and what to do to keep it that way.
The health of your body has a huge, huge impact on your thoughts, creativity, sporting ability and attitude.
Focus on health first – then fitness.
Click onto Applied Kinesiology to find out what is blocking health coming through for you.
100% health makes it happen in your life.
Emotional, Spiritual and Relationship Coaching
Helping you release/clear any negative beliefs, thoughts, reactions or behaviour that are presently affecting your relationships and health.
Teaching you techniques that lead to “Self Clearing” – a skill for life.
Helps you discover what it’s like to be truly “spiritual” and what your purpose is.
How to set goals and achieve them by confronting and clearing those negative thoughts that plaque your every move.
Confront and change those bad habits that block happiness in your life.
You will learn to embrace, feel and learn from negative emotions.
Train yourself to remain calm, focused and in “The Zone” while handling life’s challenges.
Learn to maintain motivation by discovering what is blocking it from being normal for you.
Learn how your presence can improve any situation.
You will become a “safe” person to be with. Anger, frustration, impatience and intolerance will drop away.
You will start setting a better example to your children and family. Your demonstration is your greatest influence.
You will learn to become your own Life Coach.
Financial Coaching
Traditionally, financial freedom has been seen as having enough investments that your income (satisfactory for your requirements) no longer requires your physical labour or effort. Although this is a great goal, it is rarely achieved, and even if it is achieved will not free you from your financial fears.
True financial freedom lies in clearing all the fears and anxieties that money triggers.
Coaching will help you release these fears, so you will be relaxed and calm in difficult financial circumstances.
Even wealth does not necessarily release your financial fears – but Clearing will.
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